Now just calm down.
Possibly the most ineffectual directive in the English language.
Did you flinch a little? Tense up? Get perhaps a tad irrationally angry? You realize by now I wasn’t talking about that “c” word. Rather, buy more about a far worse, more offensive four-letter atrocity that precedes the directional adjective, “down.”
Why do we utter the phrase if it does the exact opposite of what we want it to do? It comes down to the number one catalyst for most problems in our world: poor communication. There is nothing more difficult than seeing from another’s perspective, especially when that someone goes against our way of thinking. Without objectively empathizing sans judgment, we will never be able to influence their thought processes and everything we say becomes an attack.